4 Month Old Sleep Explained (sometimes 3 months too)



4 Month SleepCountless parents come for help with their 4 month old’s sleep. Why? This article will explain why “good” sleepers sometimes turn “bad” around the 3 or 4 month old mark.


How baby sleeps in the early weeks

When a newborn falls asleep, she immediately goes into deep sleep (also known as REM sleep, but I will avoid too much technical talk because that’s one reason I made this website, so you won’t have to learn the whole history of sleep if you don’t want to (or can’t stay awake to!)). If you are interested in knowing more about our biological rhythms and how we do sleep in more detail, I highly recommend the book, Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems). Newborns spend a lot of their time in deep sleep, which is why it is hard to wake them up (even to eat!) in those early days.


4 month old sleeps (and sometimes as early as 3 months)…

We all go in and out of light and deep sleep. As adults, we might change positions, look at the clock, or reposition our pillow. Up until now, you may have rocked your baby or simply given him a pacifier and he slept for hours without waking up. Well, at 3 or 4 months old, your baby is now sleeping more like an adult. Now when she falls asleep, instead of entering deep sleep, she enters lighter sleep, first. That’s why if you help her fall asleep, then put her down, she is likely to wake up because she isn’t in her deep sleep, yet.


4 month olds enter deep sleep…

Initially in the night, your 4 month old will enter deep sleep relatively quickly, within 30 minutes (this changes as we get older). However, as I said, we all cycle in and out of light and deep sleep. A child’s sleep cycle is about 45-50 minutes. So, your baby will briefly awake 45-50 minutes after she has been asleep. To put that in perspective, if you are holding your baby to sleep, you would need to hold her for at least 30 minutes to make sure she’s in deep sleep and then she might wake up 15 minutes later. Sound familiar?

Overall, though, your baby’s deepest sleep is in the early part of the night, so after that first sleep cycle, she might sleep just fine for a few hours. So, you’re golden right? Just hold her for an hour? Nope!


4 month old sleeps the rest of the night…

The technical definition of “sleeping through the night” is 5 hours of continuous sleep (i.e. no feedings) and many babies can/will do this by 2 or 3 months old. The beginning of the night is your baby’s deepest sleep and after the first 5 hours (if not sooner, depending on just how challenging he is), he will cycle between light and deep sleep, but not as deep as the beginning of the night. This is where the problem of sleep associations really come into play. If your baby needs your help to go to sleep in the beginning of the night, sometime after midnight or so, he will continue to need your help every 1 or 2 sleep cycles (that means every 45 to 90 minutes or as I often hear, every 1-2 hours).

Between 4-6 a.m., approximately, is the lightest sleep of the whole night (parents’ complaints alone make this true, in my experience, aside from my reading). In the very early morning hours (about 30 minutes to an hour before waking up), he will again go into the very deep sleep.

Although babies commonly wake up early, be sure it is truly their waking up time and not just this lighter sleep and that they are having trouble sleeping. You might notice they want a “nap” just 30 or so minutes after “waking up”. What you experienced was a night waking, not starting the day.


4 month old sleep regression

You might have heard about the 4 month sleep regression and wonder if your baby will go back to sleeping well. Some parents will be one of the lucky few whose baby will go back to sleeping well in 2-4 weeks, however, not all of us will be that lucky. For example, I find that babies who need a pacifier to sleep where you are replacing it many times per night do not stop needing that pacifier to sleep. You might get lucky and not have to replace it 10 times (maybe “just” 3-4), but maybe not. It is usually better to solve the root of the problem than to hope you are one of the lucky ones. So, maybe wait a few weeks, but if things aren’t better, plan to make changes. I talk to parents of 8 month olds and even 20 months old who are still waiting for their “baby” to grow out of their sleep problems.


4 month olds sleeping through the night…

How can you help your 4 month old sleeping through the night? Read this website (free article updates via e-mail is a good choice), be sure to check out my free guide, 5 Ways to Help Your Child Sleep Through the Night and/or get a detailed step-by-step baby sleep guide, which includes 2 of my e-mail baby sleep consultations, to answer all those “what if?” questions.


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36 Responses to “4 Month Old Sleep Explained (sometimes 3 months too)”

  • Laura Freeman:

    @Yvonne At 4 months, it’s typical to not have much of a
    schedule and have a lot of inconsistency. Some babies can do a
    schedule earlier, but in general, I’d follow her cues. Good
    luck!

  • Edward Barry:

    She used to put herself to sleep and sleep through the night.
    Nothing prepared us for this change! We’re at our wits’
    end!

  • James Rosser:

    @Tala Does your daughter know how to fall asleep on her own?
    That is usually the first key to helping her sleep in longer
    stretches. I am not saying she’s not suffering from reflux,
    but if she’s on strong medication and her sleep hasn’t
    improved, there is probably more going on. I’d probably need
    to know more about what you’ve tried but it doesn’t
    sound like she’s getting enough sleep at all. I hope you will consider one-on-one
    consultations, so we can come up with a realistic plan for you.
    Good luck!

  • Julie Stanley:

    My son, Nathan is now 4 months old. At about 1 month old his
    pediatririon told us he had colic. We then would put him in his
    bouncer, swing, or car seat to sleep. This way he was at an
    incline. He was into a really good night routine… Bath,
    massage, pajamas, I’d nurse him, then bed. He’d sleep
    anywhere from 4-5 hrs. Until about 4-6 weeks ago, I hurt my back
    and could no longer bend over to lay him down so he now sleeps with
    my husband and I. In the beginning it was ok. He slept great! No he
    wakes up every 2 hrs either crying to nurse or screaming his head
    off wanting nothing to do with anything. I have tired time and time
    again to put him in his crib, swing, bouncer, or even his car seat
    … failing every time. He sreams his head off until I pick him
    up again, nothing works! I don’t want him to get to the point
    of no return and only want to sleep with us. I feel like he has
    just gone backards. What can I do to try to get him to sleep on his
    own and “through the night?”

  • Carlita Isom:

    @ Joelle- Have you check with your pediatrician to rule out any
    medical reason for her waking and lack of napping? If you are
    breastfeeding, I would try logging what you eat and how she sleeps
    to see if you notice any patterns.

  • Valencia Marston:

    I have a 3 and half month old daughter. she does get 3-4 naps
    during the day. but, she does not seem to eat more than 3oz each
    feed and sometimes even less. throughout the day she eats total of
    15-18oz. she is very playful during the day and sometimes takes 45
    mins to eat!! exhausting. yes, i tried changing nipple size, but
    everything is out. at night, i have been trying to put her to bed
    by 8-8:30, but she wakes up atleast 3-4times at night and it all
    varies. she finally does wake up at 6am, but since I get up so many
    times at night, by 6am i can’t get up. so, she falls alseep
    until 8am. i don’t know how to get her eat well during th
    day, so she does not eat during the night. Please advise, I am
    tired!!

  • Suzanne Perez:

    As I sit here now sick with some sort of virus due to lack of
    sleep, it makes my heart happy for some reason to see that I am not
    alone with having a baby that sleeps like absolute crap now. I am
    one to immediately think that there is some kind of illness
    associated with any behavior change but the doc has ruled that out.
    And it looks like from all these testimonies and other research
    that 4m olds can apparently just take a sleeping schedule and throw
    it out the dang window. Sophie slept like clock work from 9a-5p for
    months and then one night- it was just over. After reading
    Nicole’s info on sleep habits, my girl is totally doing the
    deep-light sleep thing. She is now in her swing (which I hate but I
    HAVE to get well) and slept last night 10p-4a which was kind of
    her. However, I need to figure out how to get her back in her crib
    and break her of her paci addiction. And ideas? I’m having
    surgery in a couple weeks and am not going to be able to pick her
    up for a week – 10 days and really really would like for my
    husband to not turn into a zombie from waking and working 24/7.

  • Charles Hunt:

    I too have had a similar experience. Our daughter was sleeping
    from 9pm-7am. She is now 4 months old and for the past 2 weeks her
    sleeping has become more and more interrupted. She began by waking
    at 3am. A few days later it was 11pm and 3am. Then last night
    everything fell apart. She was up and crying at 11, 12, 3, 5, and
    then up at 7am. I only got up to feed her at 3am and the rest of
    the time we let her cry herself back to sleep. This took about
    10-15 minutes each time. My question is, why is this happening? I
    don’t think she’s hungry because she’s able to go
    back to sleep without eating. She has never been a good napper
    (only 30-45 min @ a time and I always put her down awake.
    She’s used to getting to sleep on her own.) Should I just
    keep letting her cry herself back to sleep? Should I put her down
    for the night awake? Is she too hot? Too cold? HELP!

  • Versie Watford:

    Hi, my baby is 3.5months and I had the screaming blue murder
    episode the other night and was shocked and worried. Checked her
    temperature, fine. I ended up having to give her some milk beofre
    she settled again. My health visitor reckons it was colic.
    I’ve made sure I’v winded her really well since and I
    haven’t had a repeat. Saying that though I can’t her to
    sleep on her own without rocking her in my arms!

  • Lucy Roberts:

    My son is 4 months old. We put him down for naps during the day
    about every 2 1/2 hours. He only sleeps for about 30-45 min each
    time. At night, he falls asleep after eating (put down still awake)
    and goes to sleep no problem. He goes to sleep at 5pm. I have tried
    to put him down later, like 7 or 8, even one time 10pm. No matter
    what time he goes down, he always wakes at 3am to eat. He’s
    getting 10 hours of sleep, which is great. The problem is getting
    him back to sleep after that. If i put him back in his crib,
    he’ll cry. If I put him in bed with me he’ll lay there
    and nurse until he falls asleep, but will wake up every hour and
    will nurse on and off if I let him. I sometimes do, just so I can
    catch some sleep, but need help getting him to go back into his
    crib, so I can quit sleeping in the bed in his room and go sleep
    with my husband. Or any ideas on how to “shift” his 10
    hour stretch?

  • Ian Mcfadden:

    My four month old really needs his pacifier to get to sleep and
    has only just started waking many times in the night wanting it
    back! HELP! Do I just take it away from him entirely? I need my
    sleep back!

  • Russell Stallings:

    update—we returned from vacation last week and decided to
    do “baby boot camp.” (letting her cry it out). she is
    16 weeks old, the pedo told us it was okay, and i was convinced
    that it was simply a matter of her wanting to be held. so
    far–last night (the first night) she only cried for 30
    minutes then slept all night (from about 8 till 4am when i had to
    wake her to feed her because i was so full of milk!) and tonight
    she cried for 50 minutes.
    today she napped really well too!
    i highly recommend “healthy sleep habits, happy child”
    by dr. marc weissbluth.

  • Connie Smith:

    As I write the tears roll down my cheek. I am so tired!! My 4
    month old wakes every hour and will not go back to sleep unless I
    bring her into bed with us and breastfeed her. But she constantly
    moves around keeping me awake and it seems like neither of us sleep
    all night. I try to put her in her cosleeper but she doesn’t
    like it. Of course. Some nights she will sleep in it for maybe 2
    hours if I am lucky. So I can try to let her cry it out but she
    will not stop until I pick her up and breastfeed her. I also give
    her one bottle at night of formula to help her go back to sleep. I
    feel so bad for her and for us. We are all sleep deprived and
    cranky. During the day she hardly ever naps. Maybe one nap every
    couple days for an hour. Ikes! This just doesn’t seem
    normal.

  • Luis Green:

    My baby is 4 month-old and she will fall asleep and the next
    moment she will wake up screaming “blue murder” tears
    running and everything!
    Can you tell me why this happens and how can i help her to get
    throug thise?

  • Frank Dale:

    My baby is 4 months old, breastfed. Her nap schedule is changing
    for the past 2 weeks. She would wake for about 45 minutes to an
    hour, then nap for an hour, then wake again for another hour and
    nap again for another hour (sometimes her wake time is between
    30-45 minutes)…this cycle repeats itself basically from the
    time she gets up (around 8-8:30) to 6:00pm. But when she is up, she
    is happy. However, she used to be able to nap for at least two
    hours at a time. She is doing well with her bedtime schedule
    (around 8:00pm) though. Should I try to implement a nap schedule as
    well? Would that help? It would be great if she could stay up and
    nap a bit longer each time as I am feeding her every time she gets
    up, which is every two hours, but I’m not sure
    if that’s too much. Please advise. Thanks.

  • Joyce Gamboa:

    The best thing for me is ROUTINE, ROUTINE, ROUTINE. My 4 month
    old sleeps 10 hours at night from 9pm to 7am. During the day
    she’s on an eat, play, sleep schedule and I’ve gotten
    her on a 3-4 hour feeding schedule. To me, the trick is to make
    sure that they are full, not just satisfied. I let her tell me when
    she’s done eat (pushing the bottle away or falling asleep.) I
    let her play after she eats. When I see her yawn or rub her face I
    put her in her crib immediately. She’ll normally
    “talk” or whine for 5-10 minutes and then she sleeps
    for a good 2-3 hours at a time before we repeat the process. At
    night, we give her a bath using the lavender bedtime wash, then
    give her a baby massage with the lavender bedtime lotion, put on a
    fresh diaper and some pajamas, read a book, give her a bottle and
    when she’s finished we put her in her crib. She normally goes
    right to sleep without a pacifier or even “talking” and
    will be out for 10 hours. I may just have a good baby, but I
    believe that Routine is KEY. I hope that maybe this helps to see
    what other moms are doing! GOOD LUCK!!

  • Nick Burton:

    My baby hardly ever would sleep! He is three months now and his
    first strech of sleep he can usually make it to 4 and half to five
    hours. It has helped me greatly to not put him to bed to soon, I
    feed him and rock him to sleep. Sometimes I would be putting him
    down to early and he would cry.
    Another thing that is working really well is pushing him around in
    the stroller till he falls asleep and he will just sleep their till
    he wakes up!

  • Gary Pyron:

    Sorry I also meant to say try infacol, gripe water or colief.
    Infacol is working for me.

  • Jeff Roberts:

    @Tala Does your daughter know how to fall asleep on her own?
    That is a good first step to rule out why exactly she is waking so
    frequently at night. Waking every 2 hours at night could just be
    the issue of she doesn’t know HOW to go back to sleep without
    your help. Solve that problem and she will most likely sleep in
    longer stretches. Good luck!

  • William Ho:

    Yvonne, I have exact same issue like you. My almost 4 month old
    little girl can not stay awake for more than 1h30, sometimes just
    only 40mins and she was already grumpy just 20 minutes after she
    woke up from her nap. Like today, she had 6 naps from 8.40am until
    5.30pm. The longest stretch was 1 hours and shortest was 25mins.
    Longest awake spell was 1h55 (once) and shortest was 20 mins
    (twice), the rest was 40mins. I dont know if I am demaning too much
    from her. She is a good night sleeper, from 6.30pm – 7.30am
    with 1 night feed. But in the daytime, she is grumpy, crying just
    after 20 mins she wakes up. I try to entertain her but I
    can’t do all the time. My question is: I do really want to
    set a nap routine for her (3 big naps a day and 2hrs apart), shall
    I try to lengthen her awaking time even I see her sign of
    tiredness? WIll it really lengthen her awaking time or just
    irritate her more??? Please help.

  • David Hoy:

    Sounds very interesting and soooo familiar. I am looking for any
    reasonable advise that explain the sleepless nights and frequent
    waking. If I can establish a regular sleep pattern that would be
    best. Thanks for the advise.

  • Christopher Gordon:

    @Karen It sounds like you’re doing a lot of right things,
    so I’d probably need more detail. I’m assuming
    he’s no longer swaddled and bedtime is still early such that
    he’s not over-tired. Once you do pick him up, do you make
    sure he goes back down awake? It sounds like he is just having
    trouble going BACK to sleep. My son mastered going TO sleep much
    sooner than BACK to sleep, too. Just keep trying. Some “get
    it” sooner than others. Hang in there and good luck!

  • Gloria Gibson:

    @Shruti This could be a chicken and egg problem. She can’t
    eat more during the day because she’s not hungry because
    she’s eating so much at night. She can’t stop eating as
    much at night because she’s not eating enough in the day. The
    key here is to help her learn to fall asleep on her own at night,
    so you make sure she’s not waking so much at night just to go
    back to sleep and only out of true hunger. The next step is to
    slowly shift some of the feeding from night to day, so it’s
    not a huge shock to skip an entire meal at night. Hope this helps
    and good luck!

  • Stacey Buxton:

    Nicole, thank you for the wealth of experiential knowledge you
    have passed on. My son, Nathan is 4mnths old. He started to wake 2
    hrly at night crying and my evauation was that he was hungry ( was
    also in line with 16 wk growth spurt). This is now (a problem- as
    you would say) I bought a copy of ‘healthy sleep habits,
    happy baby’ by weissbluth at yr recommendation and have
    instituted ‘cry it out’. I did this when my 13 yr old
    was 10mnths. It was worse this time but I did it and he still loves
    me. He only fed twice last night between 6:15pm and 6am. Can I ask
    why you have in yr 4mnth routine, feeding 2hrly and not 3/4hrly? Is
    it because they r likely to have shorter naps bcause of sleep
    changes at 4mnths and u want to stick to feed, play, sleep pattern?
    I’m using the routine at the moment and he seems to fit it
    well.
    Thanks again you are an angel!
    Natalie

  • Miriam Munoz:

    @Natalie You’re very welcome and I’m glad you found
    a solution with your 4 month old! Yes, I was trying to stick to the
    eat, play, sleep routine, but many babies will vary in how long
    they can go. In my naps book I try to provide more variety. It will
    also depend on whether the baby is breastfeeding or formula feeding
    sometimes, too. My boys ate every 2 hours for quite awhile (I
    breastfed) but I know many babies can go 3-4 hours from early on.
    They are all just so different.

  • James Rosser:

    @Kate I think it’s pretty rare for colic to suddenly
    appear after 3 1/2 months. You generally see it start much sooner.
    We all have off nights once in awhile, so if that was the only
    time, I wouldn’t worry about it. Thank you for commenting and
    sharing infacol and gripe water!

  • William Kendrick:

    This is all sounding very familiar and somewhat re-assuring that
    this is a phase! My son is 17 weeks and for the last 2 weeks has
    ‘regressed’ from sleeping 3 to 4 hours to waking every
    2 hours. Over the last couple of nights this has worsened to waking
    every hour or within the hour (after an initial approx 2 hour
    stretch of sleep from about 08:30pm). I am breastfeeding
    exclusively & 98% of time he will only go back to sleep through
    nursing, tho often I believe this is comfort nursing to get back to
    sleep rather than actual feeding as the feed is so short. The first
    few feeds I move him back to the cot but later on I am too
    exhausted and we end up co-sleeping. He will not take a dummy so
    not sure how I can help him through this, or if indeed he needs
    this. Three times a day he will nap in my arms for about an hour
    and a half – if I try and move him to the cot he will either
    wake immediately or anywhere after 5 to 30 minutes). I think he may
    start teething soon as he is dribbling a lot too.

  • Kathleen Chambers:

    My baby’s sleep fell apart at 17 weeks, and it seemed to
    happen quite suddenly…
    He had colic as a small baby, and used to really come unglued at 6
    pm. We would settle him to sleep by about 7 and he would sleep
    until at least 2 or 3 am. I would feed him and he’d sleep
    again until 6- so lucky!!! He started to wake up more often, maybe
    3 or 4 times a night. We have a bedtime routine ( bath, massage,
    jammies, lights out, breastfeed, back rub, crib). Now we are able
    to just put him in his crib, awake, no pacifier, and he will just
    chat a bit and go to sleep on his own (yay!). However, now he wakes
    up at LEAST every 2 hours- beginning at 9 pm. I have tried to let
    him sort it out himself and see if he’s not really
    “awake” but no way. I have tried the “hush,
    hush” from the side of the crib, and patting and touching
    him, but he will not settle unless I pick him up. Once he is
    settled (sometimes requires breastfeeding, sometimes just a cuddle)
    I can put him back in his crib and he will go back to sleep
    himself, only to wake an hour and a half later.
    This has been going on now for 3 weeks, and I am exhausted. Am I
    doing something wrong? HELP!

  • Elnora Stevens:

    We also have a routine with our 4 month old, but it does us no
    good. Just over a week ago, her nighttime sleep fell apart, and
    it’s been getting much worse every night. She fell asleep at
    7 pm after 30 minutes of trying and was up again at 8. We have been
    trying for the past 1 1/2 hours to get her back to sleep by rocking
    her. She’ll sleep in our arms for 30 minutes but then wake up
    about 2 minutes after we put her in the crib. Tonight will probably
    be worse than any of the past nights. (She’s normally been up
    about 8-9 times a night. She won’t cry herself to
    sleep–and she doesn’t show any signs of sickness or
    discomfort.

  • Betty Sparks:

    My 4.5 month old son can’t go to bed unless he is put in
    bed awake, at bedtime, in his usual-styled jammies and allowed to
    fall asleep, unassisted (he has been going to sleep on his own with
    this routine for 2 months now.) He used (past tense) to sleep for
    7-9 hours and would wake up and wrestle around a bit until I heard
    him and would feed him (he’d be all smiles in the crib) and
    then he’d return to sleep for another 1-2 hours… All
    that leapt out the window 2-3 weeks ago and now he goes to bed at
    his normal time (8 pm) doing his normal bedtime routine but now has
    been waking up screaming every 2 or 3 hours… He only wants to
    eat an ounce or two – and will promptly fall back to sleep
    and sleep like a log for 1.5 hours until he is wailing again…
    it is quite puzzling (honestly) because I don’t know how to
    get him any more routine than we already are… but I’d
    love to get some sleep. Any thoughts?

  • Melanie Yates:

    as i type this, i have been holding my 15 week old daughter for
    about 3 hours now so she’ll stay asleep… this habit has
    gotten worse over the past week and i’m ready to start sleep
    training her (let her cry it out) but i’m afraid she’s
    too young? we let our son cry it out at 5 months old, and it worked
    like a charm.
    my daughter only wakes once to eat, but it’s getting her to
    stay asleep at the beginning of the night that’s the problem.
    (as long as she’s being held, she’s fine!) i bathe her
    and nurse her at 7pm, and she’ll usually sleep in her crib
    for about 45 minutes, then cries to be held. one of us holds her
    for a couple hours, then we finally go to bed.
    what do i do??

  • Gabriel Williams:

    My baby is 4 months old and has reflux. my pediatrician put her
    on medication (which is too strong and ineffective in my opinion)
    but she still believes that i should not stop it. because of
    reflux, my baby can’t eat a whole bottle or even half of it
    without vomitting the milk, which made me feed her small meals
    instead. she does not sleep much at night, if i put her to bed at
    7-8pm, she would get up at 10 max, and doesn’t go back to
    sleep. i can’t get her to stick with a routine, she sometimes
    falls asleep at 11 pm or even as late as 2 am. she wakes up evry 2
    hours, either to eat (because she’s never full) or because of
    discomfort. and i’m exhausted, can’t find a solution to
    this. on average, she sleeps a total of 9 hours max including naps.
    my pediatrician says i should be patient but i can’t get
    anything done. i feel i have no life at all. please help.

  • Phyllis Butler:

    Can anyone please help. My son is 4 months old and my partner
    and I are like the living dead. My son goes to bed fine at about
    7.30 (he’s usually shattered by this point and really wants
    to go to bed). He then wakes up about 11.30-12.30. I’ve tried
    soothing him and rocking him but he won’t stop until he has a
    bottle. He will only have half of it and then goes back to bed. He
    sleeps for about 30 mins to an hour and then wants the rest of his
    bottle. I’ve tried soothing him again but to no avail just
    screaming and sccreaming. He then goes back to bed but struggles to
    fall asleep properly and whimpers and fusses ( very apparent as he
    is in with us as we only have 2 bedrooms and my 3 year old is in
    the other). He then sleeps for about 2 hhours and then is awake
    again and crying. He doesn’t want milk but will not settle.
    He doesn;t open his eyes just moans and whinges until I lie him
    with me in bed and then he will briefly go off until about 5.30
    when he cries again and wants some milk ( a couple of ounces). Then
    he will go back to bed til about 7. We are exhausted and I think I
    will have a nervous breakdown if this carrries on.Up until about 2
    months we had a few occasions of him sleeping through from 9ish to
    5am but this has now gone right out the window. Can anyone please
    help?

  • Bryan Davidson:

    @Heather That’s great! I’m glad you found what works
    for him. Continued luck to you.

  • Stephan Grant:

    @ Nara- She could actually be hungry or going through a growth
    spurt. Babies this age will still typically feed 1-3 time per
    night. You might trying feeding her 1-2 times for a few days and
    see if it evens back out if she’s going through a growth
    spurt. I would also recommend you check out the link I just posted
    for Amy for additional 4 mo information.

  • Michael Alligood:

    My baby is 3 & 1/2 months old & is breast fed. He just
    started on rice this past week & loves it. About a week before
    that he started want to only sleep with me.He used to sleep from
    about 10 to 4 wake up eat then go right back to sleep. now he wakes
    up every 2-3 hrs. He wont go down for a nap unless I walk him. He
    does everything he can to stay awake. I have to cover him with a
    blanket till he is aleep then rock him before I can put him down.
    He never liked to be swaddled. I’ve been trying to lay him
    down & let him sort it out. But he just gets really mad after
    about 10-15 min of crying. My friend said she has never heard a
    baby get so pissed off. any advice as to what I can do?

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