Teach Your Baby to Sleep (In Just 7 Days): Day 1: Start a Regular Routine



Day 1: Start a Regular Routine

Many babies get their days and nights mixed up, napping for long periods in the afternoon and waking up to play at bedtime. But today you’re going to fix that. “The latest research shows that infants can be taught the difference between night and day from the get-go,” says John Herman, Ph.D., clinical director of the Sleep Disorders Center at the Children’s Medical Center of Dallas. You simply need to provide the cues that will allow this to happen.

Wake your baby up early tomorrow, and get into the routine of always rising at the same time every day. Position her crib near a window and keep the blinds up. “The natural light helps babies organize their circadian rhythms,” says Dr. Herman. Letting her nap with the blinds up also promotes this process. “If they wake from a nap in the daylight, they understand it’s time to get up. If they wake at night in the dark, they’ll learn to go back to sleep,” he explains.

At nighttime, begin some quiet rituals. “Decide on a specific bedtime routine,” says Claire Lerner, M.S.W., a child-development specialist at Zero To Three: The National Center for Infants, Toddlers and Families, in Washington, D.C. Dress your child in her pajamas and put her down in her crib for the night with the lights out. Just prior to tucking her in, you may want to read a story or sing a song, which helps your baby’s motor and sensory system slow down.

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27 Responses to “Teach Your Baby to Sleep (In Just 7 Days): Day 1: Start a Regular Routine”

  • Bella Shifflett:

    YES! He is way too young to cry it out. I do not believe crying
    it out is ever appropriate, however, if you still choose to do so,
    please wait until he is at least 6 months old. This article has bad
    information. It is ok to rock them to sleep or nurse them to sleep
    or sing them to sleep or however they prefer. You are not damaging
    him or spoiling him. He is only 6 weeks old, please just love on
    him and enjoy this time.

  • Josette Welsh:

    As a first time mother of a 7 week old, I find this article very
    disturbing. Infants at thisage are not manipulative – they cry
    because of basic needs (hungry, wet, love).My son feeds every 3-4
    ounces, 3-4 hours around the clock. And at 13 pounds, I DO NOT
    think he is being overfed and thus wetting his diapers too often
    like this article suggests. I would encourage new parents to keep
    your eyes and ears open for information that works for you,
    regardless of any “expert’s” advice.

  • Janice Robles:

    My baby is three months today & Im confused. I felt like he
    was doing great until I started reading about sleep time. He will
    usually go to sleep around 830 or 9 & sleep for 4-6 hours &
    he wakes up to eat, but he will eat & get a diaper change &
    go right back to sleep until around 7. He weighs almost 15 lbs, so
    does that mean Im over feeding him? Also, how do I get him to stay
    awake through the feeding so he doesnt eventually use a bottle as a
    crutch? Does anybody have any advice?

  • Phillip Davis:

    i dont get it. i have a 1 1/2 month old and this article says im
    supposted to just “check on him” when he starts crying in the
    middle of the night and “not to offer him a bottle or pacifier”?? i
    dont get it. serious. how am i supposted to keep my milk supply up.
    how is my baby supposed to thrive? wheres the trust? he crys for
    food (b/c i know his cry) and i go and feed him. and this article
    is suggesting i all of a sudden break the bond of trust we have
    w/each other at night?! crazy…

  • Donald Mertz:

    To farrabug525 – I don’t agree with the article that you may be
    overfeeding him. But I like the advice of keeping the nighttime
    feeding as short and quiet as possible. If he is falling asleep
    while eating, gently removing the bottle and putting him back to
    sleep can help. For my baby to stay awake, I remove blankets from
    her, stroke her cheek, talk to her and change her diaper in the
    middle of feeding. At some point I used a wipe to stroke her in
    cheek and neck so the cool would wake her up.

  • Cherrie Simmons:

    to Iswmulhearn…this article contains GUIDELINES for new
    parents…not rigid rules. It is ok to let your baby cry for a few
    minutes…obviously not hours. allowing them to start the self
    soothing process is not damaging their development, nor is it an
    indicator that the parent loves their child any less. use your own
    discretion, if your baby is obviously in distress, tend to
    them…but you are NOT a bad parent and they are not going to be
    loved any less if you let them soothe themselves.

  • Calvin Bundy:

    Shame on you for publishing this! Teaching new parents that a 3
    month old baby should be sleeping through the night! Some 3 month
    olds still need to eat, especially breast fed babies. Many of my
    sons doctors do not advocate cio – ESPECIALLY UNDER 6 MONTHS OLD.
    My baby was a preemie – I saw first hand on the monitors what
    crying did and the stress it put on his body – his heartrate soared
    as did his rr. That amount of stress on a 3 month old baby!
    Insanity.

  • Martin Sanfilippo:

    My 7 months old baby used to sleep through the night until her
    5th month. The doctor said no matter how this might be tiring for
    us we should feed her on demand because she is rather thin. I try
    to give her a bigger quantity at the 10PM bottle, thinking she
    might sleep through the night again, but she only takes her usual
    quantity. Besides, putting her to bed at night has become a real
    battle. The hairdryer used to soothe her quickly but is losing its
    efficiency. can anyone help me on that?

  • Dorothy Alarcon:

    i must be lucky then, my son is almost 3 months and is sleeping
    through the night. but then again he is an average sized baby.
    maybe this article is towards typical average babies @ the mom with
    the preemie and the skinny baby – your baby obviously needs special
    attention so this may not work for you. but this may work for women
    who’s babies don’t have complications and are gaining proper
    weight. think before you down someone’s advice, it’s not for
    everyone.

  • Darius Parsons:

    Babies should never learn that “crying doesn’t produce results.”
    It’s their only form of communication – when a baby cries, it is
    because he/she NEEDS something, whether that’s food, a clean
    diaper, or just comfort – those are all LEGITIMATE needs that
    should not be ignored. What people don’t realize is that when
    babies stop crying while going to sleep alone, it isn’t because
    they’ve learned to comfort themselves, it’s because they’ve given
    up on you (the parents) caring for his/her needs. :o (

  • Yvonne Grant:

    People that are against cry it out have not been at their wits
    end I think…I haven’t slept more than 2 hours at a time in a year
    and yeah I’m considering it now, sucks but tired mom is not that
    fun.

  • Nancy Gibbens:

    this article is very disturbing. there is indeed some evidence
    that intense crying is harmful for very young infants. and it
    sounds so abusive implying that their crying is harder on the
    parent. babies are people. they cry for a reason – whatever that
    reason is. when adults cry or express a strong emotion we take that
    seriously. if you wouldn’t treat you partner this way treat your
    child this way? i am so troubled by this “sleep training.”

  • Joshua Mitchell:

    How early is too early to let a baby cry to sleep. My 6 week old
    needs to be held to go to sleep. If he wakes up mid-nap he cries to
    be held or for a pacifier. Is he too young to learn by crying it
    out?

  • Max Saucier:

    I think this article has bad advice! Letting your baby “cry it
    out” is not good. Babies need to feel secure and know that their
    needs are going to be met. I work with first time parents and we do
    not start the sleeping process until about 6 months. You do what
    you feel is best but I do not suggest letting a baby under 6 months
    cry it out. Not healthy for mom or baby!

  • Krista Dimick:

    my baby is almost 12 wks. he goes to sleep between 10 and
    10:30pm, wakes up between 2 and 3am, feeds a little about an ounce
    or two max and then falls back for another 3 to 4 hrs. i think he
    is doing a great job, or should i start with the sleeping
    process?

  • Lee Fernandez:

    Complete bs. I would never let my precious daughter think I am
    not here for her. In my opinion its pur selfish laziness. You can
    sacrifice 5 months out of your 80 years o taking care of your
    child. If not then thats not saying much about your future
    parenting. Being a parent means sacrificing. We are all they have.
    If they were meant to sleep through thenight so young God would
    have created them to do just that. Can you imagine what it must
    feel like to be so scared and then to be ignored? awful

  • Thomas Smith:

    My baby is 9 months and she sleeps in her crib in our bedroom.
    She wakes up many times at night and stands in her crib and keeps
    on crying until we don’t pick her up & rock her back to sleep.
    We desparately want to change this, but are very much reluctant in
    trying cry it out method. We tried it once & she puked. Are
    there any other options???

  • David Romero:

    I am a mom of 5 sons-6 weeks is WAY to young to let them “cry it
    out”! Please soothe your baby when he wakes up mid-nap. Now, I’m
    not saying PICK UP your baby-sometimes a pacifier and a couple of
    whispered words are enough to relax your baby back into
    sleep…they just want to know that your there. Hold his face in
    your hands, or tickle his head or pat his bottom. Enough to let him
    know it’s still “sleepy time”. Just relax and enjoy your baby!

  • Timothy Brewer:

    I thought this was a great article and I agree with every bit of
    it. This is exactly how I got my first child to sleep through the
    night and he is still an amazing sleeper (and never ended up in my
    bed). I want this for my daughter too. However, every family is
    different. I think every woman and family should do what it
    appropriate and easy for them. Just remember, you must live with
    what you create.

  • Lahoma Barker:

    My son is 6wks old and does well sleeping 4-6 hrs a night. The
    problem we are having is that he will not sleep in his
    bed/bassinet. He will sleep on my chest all night leaving me to
    sleep on the couch or in the recliner. Every time I put him down in
    his bassinet, he cries – I have tried laying him on his boppy in
    the bassinet and on his inclined positioner – nothing seems to
    work. Any advice on how I get him to sleep in his bed and not on
    me? (I’m not for the CIO method — anything else?)

  • Harold Corrado:

    Crying it out is such an outdated practice it drives me nuts
    that this is still advocated by many doctors. It tells your child
    that if you cry during the day I will be there but at night I am
    leaving you to your own devices. Poor little darling. Elizabeth
    Pantley, author of No-Cry Sleep Solution, offers some of the best
    advice out there. It is so worth doing everything you can to not
    let your child cry.

  • Michael Haynes:

    I waited until my son was 6 months to CIO. I fought doing it but
    it worked. Our pediatrician said he was at more than good enough
    weight & he would make up any missed calories during the day. I
    made sure he was fully fed, dry & warm. The first night he
    cried for 40 min (at 2x during the night), next night was only 20
    min & the following night he slept 10 hours. He was old enough
    so I knew he was waking up out of habit. He is better rested now.
    It was harder on me (I cried) then it was on him.

  • Samuel Steiner:

    My baby is 9 weeks old and she also needs to be held to go to
    sleep. After I put her down she wakes up for 2 or 3 times until
    finally she stays asleep. Sometimes I hold her and pat her back or
    I rock her,

  • Alexandra Delatorre:

    My daughter is 10mo old. she sleeps in her crib in our room. She
    wakes up every 2-4 hours and wants to be breastfed back to sleep.
    usually takes about 5-10min. for her to go back to sleep. We tried
    letting her cry before but we couldn’t let it go on for more than
    10min. We just feel too bad. I know I might regret it in the long
    run but it works for now.

  • Kenneth Kim:

    I do not like “sleep methods”. Understanding your baby’s “sleep
    pattern” is much better. My baby is 3 months old, weighs 15 pounds
    and has a regular night time “sleep pattern”. He feeds at 7pm, 10pm
    then feeds (but doesn’t fully wake-up) around 2 or 3am and again
    around 6 or 7am. Since we co-sleep and I breast feed this is our
    routine. I consider him a good “sleeper” and we are both well
    rested. A good baby book is by Dr. Sears. May God bless you and
    keep you!

  • Christopher Stewart:

    I agree whole-heartedly with what cazntone said. Babies are not
    meant to sleep through the nigh until it naturally happens. A baby
    doesn’t know that you are in the next room – for all he knows he’s
    completely by himself unless he can hear, feel, &/or see the
    only comfort he knows – PARENTS. Plus, there have been studies that
    show a baby crying for too long can cause STROKE-LIKE conditions in
    a baby’s brain. How awful to put a baby thru that, whether it
    causes damage or not.

  • Regina Jeffery:

    There is some good advice in this article, but I’m not a huge
    fan of crying it out. I hope parents remember every child and every
    family is different. My son, from birth, was a violent screamer and
    adamant about being held and soothed. He didn’t sleep through the
    night until he was 10 months old. I often wondered if I was doing
    the right thing but he’s my son is now 15 months and doing
    fantastic. Do what feels right for you — they all eventually sleep
    through the night.

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